I'M DELIGHTED YOU'RE HERE.
Unearthing your desire to explore and know yourself and others at a deeper level through therapeutic work is an incredible personal adventure. I want to help you make more contact with yourself and others in a way that expands you, your life, and the richness of personal nourishment you can take in and emotional nourishment you can give. Because you're human, I already know you have incredible capacity.
I absolutely LOVE the work I do as a therapist.
Colleagues and patients have described me as:
- open to giving direct feedback
- life-long learner
I am pursuing ongoing advanced psychotherapeutic training in areas of sexuality and sexual dysfunctions in order to holistically support my clients as they free themselves up to live deeply and authentically into who they are choosing to become. I feel comfortable talking about embodiment and sexuality, and many of my clients come to feel comfortable talking about their bodies, desires, and places of dissonance, anxiety, and fear about their intimate lives.
I am trained as a relational and psychodynamic psychotherapist and have earned my MA in Counseling Psychology as well as the designation of 'Certified Integrated Intimacy Practitioner' from the Northwest Institute on Intimacy. I believe that your being and body holds essential information, stories, emotions, and relational patterns that are actively influencing your current relationships in ways in which you may be unaware. Over the course of time, we will look at the psychotherapeutic relationship we have together to understand your heart, mind, and the core of you at a deeper level.
YOU MAKE SENSE
No matter why you are seeking therapy at this time, I fundamentally believe that the concerns and struggles you are facing makes sense in the context of your lived experiences. Many people feel anxious, overwhelmed, distressed and unhappy and believe they shouldn't have these responses to their lives. Often your feelings make complete sense, and I can help you understand their source and make peace with yourself. I'm here to listen to you at a deep level, to come to know you, and to help you see ways that you may be unintentionally contributing to your own difficulties, at times. I want to help free you up to feel more alive, and to be more freely you!
CHALLENGING & SUPPORTIVE TO HELP YOU GROW
I focus on noticing and challenging your self-imposed barriers to connection and intimacy that have been historically protective of you. Being hard on yourself isn't helpful because you are undermining the energy and desire it takes to change. When you challenge your own thoughts, behaviors and motivations from a strong place inside of you, that's different. That's where we want to hover together: in that place where you are known and accepted, where you touch upon your own strength and resilience (and it's abundant!), and are able to reconsider if the ways you interact are life-giving and nourishing to your heart, or restrictive and minimizing of you. I believe people's deepest longings are often to be loved and known. Living into these longings require strength, perseverance, and the awakening of desire that can mobilize you. Being known, valued and loved by yourself and others is invigorating and expansive. And it's inherently risky - because it involves wanting and choosing. And choosing requires investment and really showing up with all of you. The subjective experience of 'being totally present' is profound and helps my clients continue to crave deeper intimacy.
BECOMING PRESENT TO THE RICHNESS OF YOU
When we touch down into deeper aspects of the feelings and relational struggles you experience, you will become more present, aware and grounded in your body. You'll have a felt sense of moving through your anxiety into a core emotion, and then have the experience over time of becoming increasingly calm. Often people avoid what they feel because they have a sense that it will be overwhelming or will make them feel panic. I believe that it is the avoidance of what you feel and know that is getting in the way and increasing your sense of distress. We'll get through that by connecting multiple dimensions of you simultaneously, moving you into the core experience so you can feel and find relief. And then, from that grounded place, we'll learn together how to increase your strength and get you connected to your life-giving desires. You'll know what more integrated experiences feel like, because you'll be living into them. We'll listen to what you're feeling and hear your own wisdom emerge from the strongest places inside of you.
CORE CLINICAL THERAPIES FROM WHICH I DRAW
In working with my patients I utilize Relational Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Mind Mapping Therapy, Psychoanalytic thought, Attachment Theory and Object Relations Theory. The core of these therapies points to the belief that you are fundamentally wired for relationship and intimacy, that you have been profoundly influenced by your primary relationships, and that you have competing drives to connect and become a distinct, solid individual. My patients become determined to grow as they face the frustrations, distress and pain they currently experience inter-personally and internally because they make meaning out of their struggle. They risk, learn to tolerate and care for a myriad of their emotions, and work to live out of the best parts of themselves, even when it's difficult to do so. It is a profound privilege for me to meet with them as they risk being open with me, themselves and their partners. It's absolutely courageous and stunning!
CHALLENGE SHAME-BASED NARRATIVES AROUND YOUR SENSUALITY
When my patients talk about themselves as sexual beings we are doing integrative work. So many factors in my patients' lives have disconnected their minds and hearts from their bodies' natural abilities to respond and become alive. I help my patients understand why and where they are dissociating and disconnecting and help them move into their underlying internal experience so they can become present and grounded. Most of us have been taught that sexuality is about genitals; that's an extremely limited view, considering the immense capacity of human beings to feel and know each others' hearts and desires at extremely personal levels.
EROTICISM IS ANYTHING THAT MAKES YOU FEEL ALIVE
I help my patients get personal and close to themselves, which allows them to integrate their feelings of sensuality into their lives. Eroticism is about feeling alive - it's about being in extremely close contact with the core and essence of you, and allowing another human being (with the capacity to do so) to know you there. It's personal. It's enlivening TO YOU because it is inherently revealing of YOU. That's why people's anxiety often increases around sexual behavior. It's not what you're doing that is anxiety provoking; the anxiety comes from what you're trying to show another person about you!
I AM CURRENTLY ACCEPTING NEW PATIENTS
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